burial plot for a fetus why bother ?
burial plot buying a newone for a fetus why bother you may be thinking if the fetus born was just a blob cells. One mum nearly died after suffering a missed miscarriage. A miscarriage where the Growing baby and the tissue connecting it to the womb didnt come away after a miscarriage. In fact it caused blood poisoning causing the mum to go into septic shock then into a coma.
Her organs nearly shutting down it was a miracle she survived but she did. Her baby was delivered at the fetus stage of development but it was still a baby .It was fully formed but she was very tiny indeed. smaller than the palm of your hand.
Next to arrange a burial for her but there was no burial plot.
Besides who do you put her with mums side of the family? or dads side of the family? So it was decided that she would have her own.
Picture perfect her own burial plot
Graves are rented out by the council for 99 years at a time. So it was important to get both parents names on it. Just so there was no arguing years down the line as to who owned the burial plot. With both parents names on it was the first thing to do in terms of organising the burial service for her. A local funeral director was drafted in to sort out just a small gathering for the burial service.T
hey were very kind and waited for mum to make a few decisions herself. It was important for her to do that. Everyone was running around wanting to organise everything, she felt out of her depth at times as there was so much going on. It finally took her husband to give us the final list to check it over before deciding on anything.It seemed to calm things down then as certain family members took the valued step back.
Next just a few family members and immediate friends attended. A short service at a local community centre with a local funeral director who kindly read out some lovely funeral poems. Adding 3 funeral prayers were christian in origin. They didn’t want hymns played for the music, so opted for a cd. Playing nursery rhymes as you entered the building.
For the catering it was rainbow coloured table cloths over round tables. with rainbow cupcakes and hot drinks served to guests.It was blissful as everyone attened her burial service.It was cold held in the winter months so the family made sure hot choclate with cream and marshmellows was on the menu too.
waiting for the burial plot headstone
Waiting until the weather improved was a good decision. In terms of paying for the headstone to go on her burial plot. They sent a scan photograph by email to the stone mason and it’s a picture perfect at the top of the grave stone now. Her name in capital letters along with a poem about rainbows.
celebrating her life at her burial plot
The family visit the grave about 4 times a year and put pretty artificial flowers there to celebrate her brief life. No signs of them decaying then as with freshly cut ones . no stinking, rotting stems either.It always looks tidy.The toys they did decide to array it with was rainbow coloured spinning windmills.In fact they didnt want it to become a shrine to her memory with toys galore overloading the small space . Especially next to other plots. The gardeners were saying they have a hard time as it is mowing the grass between graves.