miscarriage baby burial or cremation service born sleeping 20 weeks
organizing a miscarriage cremation service for babies singly private or publicly sharing a communal grave plot? my daughter has started to bleed and we are on our way up to the hospital, her recent scan showed baby had died in the womb. the hospital can arrange for a communal service with other babies. they are all done together in a joined graveside plot.They do have company cremated together but the down side is you cant put private gravestones names on top or little ornaments. You can say to the midwives you will arrange your own service afterwards thankyou. there is no pressure to have a joint cremation service.
Shocked a few days ago by one of our families who purchased a set of clothes for their baby grandsons cremation. originally planned was a hospitals cremation service funeral and they were told don’t send clothes for baby to wear as they have to be given back to the mum before burning. How bad is that so check with your local hospitals policy before deciding on a group cremation service with other babies. Needless to say the harsh statement forced them go for a more dignified private funeral service elsewhere.
With recent scandals of baby loss ashes going missing or not returned to families and in particular in Scotland an audit and a public inquiry as been suggested to officials.In 31 cases, or 1.3%, there was no clear instruction given to officials, or they have been unable to locate the paper records, the audit found you can read the news story here.
Some families have been leaving the hospital to sort out a public funeral service with other babies as these are often free with the exception that the ashes are spread all together with other baby’s remains.Some hospitals can do a joint service in which babies bodies are buried together, but putting private headstones with babies names would not always be possible due to the amount of babies in one area and a lack of space.
That is where a private cremation service can be organized by the family. we have written an in depth article on what to do here for those of you who would like the privacy respected and prefer to have babys cremation remains collected in person by a family member instead or an funeral director /undertaker taking over.
As prices for baby urns for a cremation can be expensive here in the Uk we priced them at £115.00 alone we now stock an affordable baby funeral urn with prices starting from only £12.99 you can see them for sale here on our early baby bereavement website here
plus a family member wanted to put a rose at the side of baby’s cold cot before the lid went on and was told NO no flowers inside please. what a sad rule for just a single rose, the rose couldn’t have harmed the baby at all could it ?
mum is worried the hospital will take her baby so we cant hold a cremation service for her. can I plan a cremation service without the hospital taking our granddaughter after she’s born?
yes to both questions premature babies born at 20 weeks can have a funeral or cremation service although by law its at 24 weeks that the law states babies have to have a funeral or cremation which ever the family prefer.
now you can use the hospital to do a communal cremation service with other babies which are done all at once, you can contact your local funeral directors to arrange a private one with them or contact the crematorium and arrange it direct with them too.
after a miscarriage at 20 weeks crematorium will need paper work to prove the baby hasn’t been killed deliberately. the midwife at the hospital can sort this out with you. baby may need an autopsy first to determine the cause of death and then baby can be discharged to go to the crematorium. funeral directors or home with mum until the actual funeral /cremation service. babies that go home will need to be kept cool due to the natural behaviour of death and the body’s reaction with decomposition.
premature babies can have a cremation service even if he or she was born at 20 weeks gestation at home too.keep baby cool contact the midwife and let her know and she will tell you what happens next.
cremation service for babies takes place in a crematorium. Its a building like a basic church building in side flowers pews for family members and family to sit and a box like alter table at the front where the baby’s coffin will sit. you do not have to be religious or even have a religious service in crematoriums its a neutral type place to say a few words play a kiddies music cd or read out a poem.
they will ask you if you want to leave the coffin out or disappear /lowered into the box where it will later be cremated called the interment. ashes are usually ready to collect a few days later in a plastic tub nothing fancy so here you can arrange to bring your own baby cremation ashes casket urn or wooden box.
at a cremation service its all about timing you fit in a time slot depending how busy they are once you leave the building there is no reason you cant stay there pre order a dove release or butterfly release outside .we found this very peaceful after my own mums cremation service and everyone stood around whilst a poem was read out too, you can even keep a copy of the poem to take home with you a kind gesture that you can keep in baby’s memory box forever with you . no need to worry about were the doves go either they are homing doves like pigeons and fly straight home after they are released into the sky so beautiful.