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stillborn baby ideas to keep in the casket and baby memory box

stillborn baby ideas to keep in the casket and  baby memory box

stillborn baby memory box

stillborn baby funeral to be planned saying goodbye can be hard .Be strong this is one of the hardest things you will ever have to do. It may seem like a blur as the final day approaches. letting baby go for the final time. keeping baby's memory alive forever is what will help you take one step at a time after the funeral. especially as you get up out of bed each morning. What can baby take with them on their journey into heaven.  

when a baby has sadly been born stillborn and the undertakes collect baby from the hospital, baby will be cared for at their premises until the funeral service. sometimes a day earlier than the funeral or in the morning of the funeral the coffin or casket with baby settled inside can be brought to the family home.its a final chance  to say their good byes or if preferred the family can decide it can kept at the funeral directors for family to visit there instead.the family can visit baby for what’s called family viewing at the funeral directors. as visitors come to pay their final respects the coffin lid will not be put on top until everyone has had a chance to visit or at the parents request.

sometimes a little moses basket is available for tiny – newborn baby to lay in at the chapel of rest. During these visits you may want to bring baby a gift to lay at the side of baby as he or she is prepared to take their final journey in death in preparation for the funeral.

visiting baby at the funeral directors / chapel of rest

scared to visit your baby ? do not be afraid take a family member or friend with you for moral support. if there isn’t anybody the funeral director is there for you too they can come in the room with you .

what to expect seeing baby in the funeral casket ?

you can have all sorts of emotions going through your mind about seeing baby since leaving hospital. baby will be kept cold that helps slows down the natural process of death to baby’s body. you can ask the funeral director ahead of your visit is the condition of baby’s body is still ok to view and you may decide just to sit with baby’s coffin on your knee instead of having the top left off if its likely to cause you any distress.

so what items can go into a baby burial casket of coffin ?.here are our top 12 tips and ideas to consider

  1. small items so it wont be too overcrowded for baby lying next to them in the casket.
  2. you could scatter in some real rose petals they have a lovely aroma. lily of the valley or baby could hold a small bunch real lavender too.
  3. a children’s bedtime story book could be place at the foot of the coffin tucked in near the blanket.
  4.  family photographs and even ones of the family pets so baby can be surrounded by the loving family at all times.
  5. a tiny baby version teddy bear for preterm babies available here sizes from 3cm and to order 2 allows mum and dad to keep the exact same one at home in baby’s memory box as a loving keepsake.
  6. a hand made bracelet for baby’s wrist.
  7. a personally written poem or letter of love sent to baby
  8. a little wooden cross.
  9. a piece of jewellery that was mums.
  10. a little candle so baby isn’t afraid of the dark
  11. a present of love such as a tiny toy rattle crayons and a notebook so baby has something to do in heaven.
  12. a siblings picture drawn or coloured in themselves xx.

honouring a child's memory over the holidays 

 

The loss of a child is something that every parent hopes to never encounter and many families live with every day.  The holiday season can be very challenging for parents as they are faced with the task of celebrating when they are grief stricken and sad.  There are ways in which you can honor a child that has passed and keep them a part of the your holiday celebrations.  This not only helps keep your child’s memory alive but also can bring comfort to your heart and ease some of the grief.

 

Write A Letter child Loss honoring their memory

 

One way in which parents can honor their child is to write them a letter.  The letter can express whatever you choose.  Maybe it’s a recap of life and what has happened in the last year.  Perhaps you can write a poem or verse from a favorite song that reminds you of your child.  The letter can express your sadness, your anger over your loss, your struggles and your fears.  If it’s in your heart, write it down.  And this isn’t just for parents.  Siblings, grandparents, anyone that was a part of the child’s life can take part in writing a personal note or letter, expressing whatever they’d like.

 

What do you do with the letter?  You can take all the letters from the family members, tie them together and attach helium balloons to the letters.  Find a high point, a place of special meaning, your own backyard and let the balloons take the letters up to your child.  Save the letters in a box and put them away, unopened.  Burn the letters and gather the ashes to release over the resting place of your child or save them and create a memory book from the letters.  The options are limitless.

 

child Loss honoring their memory Choose A Keepsake

 

There are other personal ways in which you can honor your child this holiday season.  Choose a specially designed keepsake in their memory.  Pendants, rings, bracelets and other styles can be filled with a small amount of cremated ashes or another tribute to your child and provide a discreet way to have your child with you always.  Choose a glass keepsake and add a small scroll with your child’s name and dates of birth and death and display the keepsake on your Christmas tree or holiday garland.  Give them as gifts to loved ones that are also struggling as a way to share in honoring a child that was loved by many.

 

Photo engraved keepsakes are another way to remember your child this holiday.  The keepsakes come with and without an internal urn and can be laser engraved with an image of your child.  The resulting image is black and white grayscale regardless of the color of the initial image and you can submit any digital image of your child that holds special meaning.  The photo pendants can be worn as a pendant or hung from a clear filament from the rearview mirror of your vehicle.

 

 

 

Give Back child Loss honoring their memory

 

Sometimes when you’ve experienced loss one of the best ways to honor your loved one is to give back to others.  Whether it is something as simple as donating your time in a local soup kitchen or volunteering to read to children in the hospital or starting a foundation in memory of your child, giving back to others that are in need can fill a void and fill your heart.  It can be an organization that you turned to in a time of need or simply a cause that you are passionate about – whatever works best for your individual situation.

 

Giving back isn’t just about time.  Sometimes, time is the one thing we are short on.  Financial donations to organizations and charities is another way to give back and for those who are struggling with their loss and aren’t ready to donate time, this is a great option.  Non-profits and charitable organizations depend on the donations of others to help continue their efforts and every dollar goes towards helping others in need.  You can make the donation in your child’s name and make them a part of something that is impacting the lives of others.

 

Other ways in which you can honor your child during the holidays:

 

   Name a star.  There are online companies that for a small fee let you name a star in memory of your child or loved one.  Most often you receive a certificate of registry or something similar that gives the location of the star and the name it was given.

   Create an online memorial.  Several sites offer free online memorial hosting.  You can add pictures, poems, journal entries and music and create a collaboration of memories of your child.  Do it as a surprise and present to the entire family during the holiday celebration.

   Choose a symbolic gesture or gift in memory of your child.  Choose an annual ornament for your child and each year let someone different hang on the tree or mantle.  Place an electric candle in the window with a specially chosen colored bulb and leave it on during the holidays as a reminder of a child that could not be there.  Create a way to remember your child each year during the holidays and keep their spirit with you.

   Adopt a family.  There are many grieving families that simply can’t afford to provide gifts for one another during the holiday season.  Assisting them with gifts for the family eases some of the stress of the holidays and this can also help with easing some of their grief.  The kindness of others can be of great comfort to those that are struggling.

 

The heartache and grief after losing a child does not just go away one day.  It is a part of us for the rest of our lives and what changes is the way in which we cope with our heartache and our grief.  Whether it’s paying respect to your child by giving back to others in need, choosing a keepsake to hold a memento in their memory or choosing an ornament every holiday to pay tribute to their life, honouring the life of your child during the holidays can help to ease the heartache and bring some comfort to a grieving heart.

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